Premature ejaculation: Roger and Out
Premature ejaculation is a common sexual dysfunction. In fact, probably every man experiences this at least once in his sexual life Viagra Canada , 
though most would be loathe to admit it. Definitions of this problem have varied greatly over the years and among the sexperts, with an earlier definition being ejaculation before penetration or within 30 seconds of penetration. Obviously, people asked: ‘Well, what about 35 seconds?’ and ‘How can I tell without a stopwatch?’ or quipped ‘Somehow I forget to time it’. Today the definition is ejaculation (and the subsequent return to the flaccid state of the penis) too quickly for the partner to experience pleasure from the episode of intercourse. This is a better definition, but is also not perfect. We suspect that, even without a perfect definition, couples know when they are having a problem in this area. And if they do not know, either because of lack of experience or because their relationship is otherwise so fulfilling in its entirety, then who are we to tell them that they have a problem?
Jim and Marilyn had been married for fifteen years. For the first two years, they experienced wonderful sex and then Marilyn’s father died and her mother moved in with them. Sex became a bit more subdued. Three years later, Jim’s dad died and his mother also moved in; the mothers were alternately good friends and bitter rivals, and this took up a great deal of Jim and Marilyn’s emotional energy. Sex became a quick bit caught when and how they could. It felt almost like being guilty teenagers. Two years ago, the mums announced that they felt just too cramped in this small apartment and were moving together to an independent living facility, and ‘no, it’s no use trying to talk us out of it. We don’t want to hurt your feelings, but we’ve already made all the arrangements.’
Jim and Marilyn felt conflicted; they felt a vague sense of having failed in a duty and a huge relief that they could be on their own now. In fact, perhaps it was not too late to have children.
The first weekend on their own, Jim brought home flowers and a special bottle of wine and Marilyn cooked their favourite meal. They took a long leisurely bath together and arrived in bed with a good head of steam going. And then, spurt, flop. Later in the week, a more spontaneous performance ended in the same anticlimax. Instead of building a wall of silence, Jim and Marilyn got up out of bed and cuddled on the couch and discussed what to do about ‘our problem’. Their answer was to buy a vibrator. Any time intercourse was truncated by Jim’s coming too soon, he brought Marilyn to orgasm with the vibrator. This worked very well for them and within six months they rarely had to use the vibrator because Jim had become accustomed to again having the luxury of time.